Top 3 Ways To Stop Looking For The Right Person In All The Wrong Ways
Christian dating is getting tougher and tougher in the digital age with all the real values taking a nosedive. Still, the silver lining is that love knows no age or limits, and it still makes the world go round. With that thought in mind, let’s take a look at how you can stop looking for the right person in all the wrong ways, and turn things around for the better.
1. Fighting Against The Culture Of Endless Hookups
There is no denying the fact that all this technology we have at our disposal to meet new people and find romantic partners has created a culture of endless, meaningless hookups.
If you’re looking for a serious relationship or true love, dating in the digital world is going to pose a challenge, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still navigate those waters well, and fall head over heels in love with someone when you least expect it.
The first thing you need to do is understand your needs and what you want to get out of encounters with other singles, Christian or otherwise. Even if you’re looking for a serious relationship, you’ll still spend some time texting and flirting with new people until one of them proves to be interesting enough to make it to date no. 4. You’ll fight the culture of endless hookups not by staying on the sidelines, but by making it clear you’re not interested in a short-term relationship early on.
2. Lean On Your Friends
Despite the fact that most matches nowadays are made in cyberspace, leaning on your friends to set you up with someone or introduce you to new people is one of the safest ways to meet your romantic goals.
This doesn’t just mean going on blind dates as your inner circle plays matchmaker. What we mean is going out every chance you get with your closest friends and family members, meeting new people in a relatively controlled setting that someone you’re close with already knows.
This is something that you can achieve by attending meetings, gatherings, birthday parties and all sorts of events where you’ll have a chance to meet a friend of a friend who knows a friend, reducing the odds of being caught in a web of lies or moves to a minimum.
3. The Choice Is Yours
Waiting around for the right person to show up is not a good idea because that might take forever. Plus, you don’t want to be chosen by someone, you want to be the one doing the choosing.
There are various ways to let a person know you like them, from sending them an innocent text to asking them out for coffee. In the digital era, a subtle way to show you’re attracted to someone is to post a photo on Facebook or Instagram that they’ll recognize, add them as a friend and see if they respond in any way. You might get a ‘like’ or a private message, and you can take it from there in any direction you please. This way you’re cheeky without being pushy or in other words – you take matters into your own hands.